Guide 4 Life Harrogate

Self Harm

Self Harm

Self-harm is when someone deliberately hurts or injures him or herself. It is a way of dealing with very strong emotions and for some people it gives the relief that crying may provide for others. For some people, it is part of coping with a specific problem and they stop once the problem is resolved.

People who self-harm can be experiencing extreme distress, they are not usually attention-seeking or mentally ill. They are in a situation where they have no other means of expressing their feelings or asking for help. They need compassion, support and understanding. Self-harm can be seen as the 'opposite' of suicide as it is often a way of coping with life rather than of giving up on it. Most people who self-harm want to stop hurting themselves and they can do this by trying to develop new ways of coping and communicating. However, some people feel a need not only to change their behaviour but also to understand why they have resorted to harming themselves.

Try to understand why you do it, work out what would have to change to stop you feeling like hurting yourself.

  • Try to think about other things e.g. count down from ten (nine, eight, seven) or point out five things, one for each sense, in your surroundings to bring your attention on to the present.
  • Try relaxation e.g. breathe slowly - in through the nose and out through the mouth.

You may find information on these sites helpful:

Web: www.selfharm.org

Web:
www.siari.co.uk

Web:
www.achance2talk.com

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                    If If you can't stop wanting to hurt yourself, it's best to get help from someone you can trust. This means finding someone who you can talk to about your problems, give you practical help or refer you to a health professional.