Guide 4 Life Harrogate

Managing Emotions

Managing Emotions - Anger

Everybody gets angry, from being mildly annoyed to a full on rage. Feeling angry can be a normal, healthy reaction. Anger isn't always a bad thing and it can be helpful when we need it for survival or to protect other people. But when it gets out of control and turns destructive, it can lead to problems.

If you find yourself acting in ways that seem out of control and frightening, you might need help finding better ways to deal with this emotion. Talk it over with someone you trust - family, friends, teachers, school nurses - they could come up with some other strategies or put you in touch with someone who can help. See the next page for some ideas on managing anger yourself.

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Some people choose to ignore or bottle up anger, but this approach may cause more harm because the root problem is never addressed. Instead, try to manage anger so it can become a more positive emotion. Here are some ideas:

  • Relax, breathe deeply
  • Think positively. Remind yourself that the world is not out to get you, but rather you're just experiencing some of the rough spots of daily life.
  • Problem-solve. Identify the specific problem that is causing the anger and try to deal with it.
  • Communicate with others. Angry people tend to jump to conclusions. Slow down and think carefully about what you want to say. Listen carefully to what the other person is saying.
  • Manage stress. Make sure to set aside personal time to deal with the daily stresses of school, activities, and family. Try listening to music, writing a diary, exercising, talking about your feelings.